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  Are you happier out of the org?

  by dobbie in

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  hi everyone i was just wondering if those of you that have left the org for whatever reason, have found your'e much happier than when you were in it?probably a daft question but i tried to talk to a friend about how i was feeling about a few things and why i don't go to meetings and she said would i really be any happier out than in?it just got me thinking about why i joined in the first place, because i was lonely and down, although i still am several years later it seems!have you found life better on the outside?did you feel a sense of freedom or was it really hard to adjust?when i try to explain what i find hard in the religion they can always say something back that then makes me think i was wrong in the first place and it is the truth after all - aagh!

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  Sorry about the double post - still 'repetition for emphasis'!
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  Are you happier out of the org?

  by dobbie in

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  hi everyone i was just wondering if those of you that have left the org for whatever reason, have found your'e much happier than when you were in it?probably a daft question but i tried to talk to a friend about how i was feeling about a few things and why i don't go to meetings and she said would i really be any happier out than in?it just got me thinking about why i joined in the first place, because i was lonely and down, although i still am several years later it seems!have you found life better on the outside?did you feel a sense of freedom or was it really hard to adjust?when i try to explain what i find hard in the religion they can always say something back that then makes me think i was wrong in the first place and it is the truth after all - aagh!

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  Welcome to the board.
  
  To say I'm happier out of the organisation is the biggest understatement EVER!
  
  I was d'fed 4 years ago, my marriage broke up, all my former friends and my family no longer talk to me - yes I don't like that bit but it is their loss as much as it is mine.
  
  When you realise that the organisation is not based on truth it is easier.
  
  I am remarried now to a gorgeous woman. we have already had amazing times visiting outstanding places around the world.
  
  I feel free, relaxed, at peace with myself and with no pressure to keep on doing more.
  
  Having been brought up a JW I thought I would find it hard once I left but I haven't. The only regret I have is I wish I had done it YEARS ago.
  
  Good luck!
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  Are you happier out of the org?

  by dobbie in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hi everyone i was just wondering if those of you that have left the org for whatever reason, have found your'e much happier than when you were in it?probably a daft question but i tried to talk to a friend about how i was feeling about a few things and why i don't go to meetings and she said would i really be any happier out than in?it just got me thinking about why i joined in the first place, because i was lonely and down, although i still am several years later it seems!have you found life better on the outside?did you feel a sense of freedom or was it really hard to adjust?when i try to explain what i find hard in the religion they can always say something back that then makes me think i was wrong in the first place and it is the truth after all - aagh!

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  south african beef

  Welcome to the board.
  
  To say I'm happier out of the organisation is the biggest understatement EVER!
  
  I was d'fed 4 years ago, my marriage broke up, all my former friends and my family no longer talk to me - yes I don't like that bit but it is their loss as much as it is mine.
  
  When you realise that the organisation is not based on truth it is easier.
  
  I am remarried now to a gorgeous woman. we have already had amazing times visiting outstanding places around the world.
  
  I feel free, relaxed, at peace with myself and with no pressure to keep on doing more.
  
  Having been brought up a JW I thought I would find it hard once I left but I haven't. The only regret I have is I wish I had done it YEARS ago.
  
  Good luck!
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  So hot!

  by LittleToe in

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  22*c / 72*f in stornoway, this morning - enough to fry the wings off of midges!

  the beaches in the outer hebrides make it one of the best places on the planet, in good weather.

  unfortunately it isn't often we get a good spell.. how the heck am i going to survive dallas!!!

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  In sunny Essex it reached 34degrees. I have a colleague who lives in Glasgow and he said he was roasting!!
  
  Roasting? He should live in England. Sometimes I think in mindset we are closer to the mediterranean than we are to our neighbours Scotland.
  
  No offence, but I can't believe your not just slightly jealous of our glorioius weather. People pay loads for a holiday to the sun and we have it on our own doorstep.
  
  P.S Went to Skye two years ago - beautiful place but less than half the temperature it was when we left the South East!
  
  Great food and accomodation at the Three Chimneys in Colbost by the way!!!
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  Whoa! A NICE PAIR OF TITS!

  by nicolaou in

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  Oh dear - trust me to click onto this thread thinking I might see something else!!!!
  
  Bad, bad worldy dirty mind - good job I'm already d'fed!
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  what are you up to this summer?

  by lovelylil in

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  i have not posted in a long while!

  hope everyone is enjoying their summer so far.

  i have the kids home so i have been very busy.

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  Hello lovelylil.
  
  This year my wife (Bubble) and I had a vacation in New York - fantastic!!!
  
  We are going to Egypt next month for a two week break in the sun, mind you it's well over 90 degrees here in Emgland at the moment and could hit 100 tomorrow.
  
  We have booked a super luxury 5 star hotel (the George Cinq) in Paris for my wifes 40th Birthday but that is not until next february.
  
  Oh and later in feb we are off to Prague for our anniversary.
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  Do you get speeding tickets often, or get away with alot of traffic tickets

  by JH in

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  i didn't get a ticket in over 15 years, although i drive alot.. i always wear my seatbelts, never go more than 10 to 15 mph over the speed limit, and make decent stops, not dead stops, but decent ones..... here in quebec, if ya do a lousy stop, but that i mean if you don't completely stop, they call tha an american stop here.

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  I drive about 25,000 miles a year and despite the fact that England is covered with speed cameras, I can't remember the last time I had a speeding ticket.
  
  I'm not saying that I dont speed, it's just that I seem to have a sixth sense about the cameras - my brain seems to register it before my eyes see it!
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  Weather!

  by jeanniebeanz in

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  it is so blazing hot here in houston!

  it's almost 10:00 pm and the ac is still running, and i've got the thermostat set at 80. .

  what kind of weather are you dealing with where you live this fine july?.

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  It's also hot here in good old London Town.
  
  Today it was about 32 and by wednesday it could be a record for here in july - about 37 which I think is the high 90's.
  
  And I'm going to Egypt in August to get some sun - should've stayed in England!
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  Breaking up with spouse, why?

  by greendawn in

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  for those that broke up with a boy/girlfriend or a spouse, how do you know that you made the right decision?

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  I've only just read this thread so sorry FinallyFree for the delay but I have to agree whole heartedly with your comments. I was with my (now ex) wife for 19 years and I certainly would answer negatively to all of your questions.
  
  At the time I was trying to be a good JW so I could add a few comments: she never supported me in field service, she never answered up at the meetings, she didn't care about our childrens spirituality, just the clothes they wore, she loved my pay cheque but would never contribute financially herself, she wouldn't allow me to open the house for field service or the group study - I could go on and on but i won't. She always considered herself a good JW too!
  
  I am now remarried to a gorgeous lady who sometimes also posts on this site (alias Bubble). She is so wonderful - she makes me realise that life can be very good indeed, I just love being in her company and experiencing things with her - she makes me happy, she makes me laugh and she makes me feel good about myself. I now can see how my first marriage was a total sham and how mad I was not to end it earlier, but I was under extreme pressure from the Witto's to make it work.
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  New posters introduce yourself please :D

  by IP_SEC in

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  i havent been around much the past 3 or 4 months.

  i plan to be try and post more now.

  the problem is that i see so many new people here that i dont know and dont think there's any way i could catch up with who's who just by reading.

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  south african beef

  Hi I'm relatively new here too.
  
  Talking of relatives - I'm married to Bubble who posted on this thread yesterday.
  
  Love this forum too and you can read all about me by clicking on my profile.